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    Carmelita got a reaction from Maynard in Newbie with extreme tattoo regret   
    I had mine done in March. I think it took my about 4 months at least to let it settle. It was a bit weird at first to show it off in summer time when I went swimming. I always tried to hide it before but it would have been unfair to my kids to lock them in on the hot summer days and not go swimming.
    After all,  I got some really nice compliments and it made me feel confident.
    It was a very emotional journey but those feelings that take over will pass. It really seems it's a very common feeling and other people reached out to me telling me about the same experience. 
    I think it's just the mind that needs to adapt to the visible (but very nice) change on your body. 
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    Carmelita got a reaction from Ih8joe in Anxiety ridden canvases   
    As you might remember my story about almost 2 years ago and I want to thank you guys again for how much you've been uplifting me with your honesty and your words. 
    This post tattoo anxiety seems a very common thing. It hit me as well even though I was planning on getting a big one for many years. 
    Many people have contacted me and having those feelings seems to be a very common thing, there seems to be the same pattern that people are going through. It looks to me that nowadays people want to have a solution for everything immediately if they don't feel comfortable with something. People don't know how to be patient anymore and get rid of something if they don't like it. People compare themselves way too much with others as it's what social media does with many people's minds.
    There are quite a few reasons that I could write about regarding post tattoo anxiety and I was thinking about posting my experience here as so many people have been reaching out to me and I can see there seems to be a common psychological process (I just don't really have the time to write things down in detail)
    Anyway:  I can assure to everyone with this anxiety: YOU WILL GET OVER  IT  and live will go on. It might take some time but you will get there. Don't be hard on yourself and even if right now you're having panic attacks (which is a horrible feeling), it'll get less and you'll come to love your tattoo. It's a change you've done to your body and now your mind needs some time to adjust. Don't forget that you love tattoos and why you love them because this is hopefully the reason why you decided to get them.
     

     
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    Carmelita reacted to JAC1961 in First Tattoo - Anxiety   
    Seems to me that you should be here a little longer before you begin laying down judgement on others that have literally spent hundreds if not thousands of hours responding to people's questions and trying to help them through their experiences.
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    Carmelita got a reaction from Gingerninja in Anxiety ridden canvases   
    As you might remember my story about almost 2 years ago and I want to thank you guys again for how much you've been uplifting me with your honesty and your words. 
    This post tattoo anxiety seems a very common thing. It hit me as well even though I was planning on getting a big one for many years. 
    Many people have contacted me and having those feelings seems to be a very common thing, there seems to be the same pattern that people are going through. It looks to me that nowadays people want to have a solution for everything immediately if they don't feel comfortable with something. People don't know how to be patient anymore and get rid of something if they don't like it. People compare themselves way too much with others as it's what social media does with many people's minds.
    There are quite a few reasons that I could write about regarding post tattoo anxiety and I was thinking about posting my experience here as so many people have been reaching out to me and I can see there seems to be a common psychological process (I just don't really have the time to write things down in detail)
    Anyway:  I can assure to everyone with this anxiety: YOU WILL GET OVER  IT  and live will go on. It might take some time but you will get there. Don't be hard on yourself and even if right now you're having panic attacks (which is a horrible feeling), it'll get less and you'll come to love your tattoo. It's a change you've done to your body and now your mind needs some time to adjust. Don't forget that you love tattoos and why you love them because this is hopefully the reason why you decided to get them.
     

     
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    Carmelita got a reaction from scottyg in Anxiety ridden canvases   
    As you might remember my story about almost 2 years ago and I want to thank you guys again for how much you've been uplifting me with your honesty and your words. 
    This post tattoo anxiety seems a very common thing. It hit me as well even though I was planning on getting a big one for many years. 
    Many people have contacted me and having those feelings seems to be a very common thing, there seems to be the same pattern that people are going through. It looks to me that nowadays people want to have a solution for everything immediately if they don't feel comfortable with something. People don't know how to be patient anymore and get rid of something if they don't like it. People compare themselves way too much with others as it's what social media does with many people's minds.
    There are quite a few reasons that I could write about regarding post tattoo anxiety and I was thinking about posting my experience here as so many people have been reaching out to me and I can see there seems to be a common psychological process (I just don't really have the time to write things down in detail)
    Anyway:  I can assure to everyone with this anxiety: YOU WILL GET OVER  IT  and live will go on. It might take some time but you will get there. Don't be hard on yourself and even if right now you're having panic attacks (which is a horrible feeling), it'll get less and you'll come to love your tattoo. It's a change you've done to your body and now your mind needs some time to adjust. Don't forget that you love tattoos and why you love them because this is hopefully the reason why you decided to get them.
     

     
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    Carmelita got a reaction from Zer0 in Anxiety ridden canvases   
    As you might remember my story about almost 2 years ago and I want to thank you guys again for how much you've been uplifting me with your honesty and your words. 
    This post tattoo anxiety seems a very common thing. It hit me as well even though I was planning on getting a big one for many years. 
    Many people have contacted me and having those feelings seems to be a very common thing, there seems to be the same pattern that people are going through. It looks to me that nowadays people want to have a solution for everything immediately if they don't feel comfortable with something. People don't know how to be patient anymore and get rid of something if they don't like it. People compare themselves way too much with others as it's what social media does with many people's minds.
    There are quite a few reasons that I could write about regarding post tattoo anxiety and I was thinking about posting my experience here as so many people have been reaching out to me and I can see there seems to be a common psychological process (I just don't really have the time to write things down in detail)
    Anyway:  I can assure to everyone with this anxiety: YOU WILL GET OVER  IT  and live will go on. It might take some time but you will get there. Don't be hard on yourself and even if right now you're having panic attacks (which is a horrible feeling), it'll get less and you'll come to love your tattoo. It's a change you've done to your body and now your mind needs some time to adjust. Don't forget that you love tattoos and why you love them because this is hopefully the reason why you decided to get them.
     

     
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    Carmelita got a reaction from cgrave in Anxiety ridden canvases   
    As you might remember my story about almost 2 years ago and I want to thank you guys again for how much you've been uplifting me with your honesty and your words. 
    This post tattoo anxiety seems a very common thing. It hit me as well even though I was planning on getting a big one for many years. 
    Many people have contacted me and having those feelings seems to be a very common thing, there seems to be the same pattern that people are going through. It looks to me that nowadays people want to have a solution for everything immediately if they don't feel comfortable with something. People don't know how to be patient anymore and get rid of something if they don't like it. People compare themselves way too much with others as it's what social media does with many people's minds.
    There are quite a few reasons that I could write about regarding post tattoo anxiety and I was thinking about posting my experience here as so many people have been reaching out to me and I can see there seems to be a common psychological process (I just don't really have the time to write things down in detail)
    Anyway:  I can assure to everyone with this anxiety: YOU WILL GET OVER  IT  and live will go on. It might take some time but you will get there. Don't be hard on yourself and even if right now you're having panic attacks (which is a horrible feeling), it'll get less and you'll come to love your tattoo. It's a change you've done to your body and now your mind needs some time to adjust. Don't forget that you love tattoos and why you love them because this is hopefully the reason why you decided to get them.
     

     
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    Carmelita got a reaction from SJP0tato in Anxiety ridden canvases   
    As you might remember my story about almost 2 years ago and I want to thank you guys again for how much you've been uplifting me with your honesty and your words. 
    This post tattoo anxiety seems a very common thing. It hit me as well even though I was planning on getting a big one for many years. 
    Many people have contacted me and having those feelings seems to be a very common thing, there seems to be the same pattern that people are going through. It looks to me that nowadays people want to have a solution for everything immediately if they don't feel comfortable with something. People don't know how to be patient anymore and get rid of something if they don't like it. People compare themselves way too much with others as it's what social media does with many people's minds.
    There are quite a few reasons that I could write about regarding post tattoo anxiety and I was thinking about posting my experience here as so many people have been reaching out to me and I can see there seems to be a common psychological process (I just don't really have the time to write things down in detail)
    Anyway:  I can assure to everyone with this anxiety: YOU WILL GET OVER  IT  and live will go on. It might take some time but you will get there. Don't be hard on yourself and even if right now you're having panic attacks (which is a horrible feeling), it'll get less and you'll come to love your tattoo. It's a change you've done to your body and now your mind needs some time to adjust. Don't forget that you love tattoos and why you love them because this is hopefully the reason why you decided to get them.
     

     
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    Carmelita got a reaction from AtomicMagpye in Anxiety ridden canvases   
    As you might remember my story about almost 2 years ago and I want to thank you guys again for how much you've been uplifting me with your honesty and your words. 
    This post tattoo anxiety seems a very common thing. It hit me as well even though I was planning on getting a big one for many years. 
    Many people have contacted me and having those feelings seems to be a very common thing, there seems to be the same pattern that people are going through. It looks to me that nowadays people want to have a solution for everything immediately if they don't feel comfortable with something. People don't know how to be patient anymore and get rid of something if they don't like it. People compare themselves way too much with others as it's what social media does with many people's minds.
    There are quite a few reasons that I could write about regarding post tattoo anxiety and I was thinking about posting my experience here as so many people have been reaching out to me and I can see there seems to be a common psychological process (I just don't really have the time to write things down in detail)
    Anyway:  I can assure to everyone with this anxiety: YOU WILL GET OVER  IT  and live will go on. It might take some time but you will get there. Don't be hard on yourself and even if right now you're having panic attacks (which is a horrible feeling), it'll get less and you'll come to love your tattoo. It's a change you've done to your body and now your mind needs some time to adjust. Don't forget that you love tattoos and why you love them because this is hopefully the reason why you decided to get them.
     

     
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    Carmelita got a reaction from scottyg in Initiation   
    It'll pass. If you check for my posts in this forum you'll find the thoughts, panic attacks I had. I know it is a weird feeling that can take over but it'l go away! Give it time.
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    Carmelita got a reaction from janrose in Not liking my new Tattoo, panic attacks   
    hi there. Thanks for the compliment. I'm seriously glad to say that the regret is gone. It took some time and it was a bumpy ride but I really came to love my tattoo and I'm proud of it :-).
    I had to let it become part of me but the support of this group is amazing!
     
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    Carmelita got a reaction from oboogie in Got my first tattoo cover up   
    I understand if you still keep worrying and overreacting and you know what? It's ok. I've been there. It wasn't really an easy time but it will pass. In this past year I've spoke to many who went through exactly the same. That feeling you have seems to be a very common thing. And what I can tell you as well is, that all of them came to peace with their tattoo. 
    I think for some it takes time to get used to something on their body which hasn't been there before. It needs to settle in your mind. You're not the first one going through this and you also won't be the last one. 
    I think it's something really nice to have. Try to turn your thoughts in to something positive. You have to stop blaming yourself.
    And yes, if you go search the group you will find mine and also how I felt. I'm really fine now ;-) and it's nothing that's going to stop me from living my life. Not at all. I'm proud to have it and so should you!
     
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    Carmelita got a reaction from janrose in Got my first tattoo cover up   
    I understand if you still keep worrying and overreacting and you know what? It's ok. I've been there. It wasn't really an easy time but it will pass. In this past year I've spoke to many who went through exactly the same. That feeling you have seems to be a very common thing. And what I can tell you as well is, that all of them came to peace with their tattoo. 
    I think for some it takes time to get used to something on their body which hasn't been there before. It needs to settle in your mind. You're not the first one going through this and you also won't be the last one. 
    I think it's something really nice to have. Try to turn your thoughts in to something positive. You have to stop blaming yourself.
    And yes, if you go search the group you will find mine and also how I felt. I'm really fine now ;-) and it's nothing that's going to stop me from living my life. Not at all. I'm proud to have it and so should you!
     
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    Carmelita reacted to oboogie in Got my first tattoo cover up   
    Search the group. She posted it here. 🙂
    Quit worrying. It's a nice rose. Maybe don't get any more tattoos for a while. 😉
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    Carmelita got a reaction from oboogie in Got my first tattoo cover up   
    Hi there. First of all I think you have a very nice tattoo.
    I can very much relate to the feelings you're going through as my mind went crazy when I had my back piece done a little more than a year ago. I was obsessed with it. It felt like it wasn't part of my body and I wanted it gone.
    It took some time to get used to it and to accept it as part of me. My tattoo wasn't just an impulse decision, yet it felt like something too big, too dark, too weird on my body, I felt like i let down my family and kids and that I'm a freak.
    Well, now, quite some time later I can tell you I got used to it and I like my tattoo very very much and I'm back to being me, the strong, confident me.  Give it time. If you feel weird right now it's ok. You'll be better! Don't be hard on yourself and keep living your normal life :-).
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    Carmelita got a reaction from janrose in Got my first tattoo cover up   
    Hi there. First of all I think you have a very nice tattoo.
    I can very much relate to the feelings you're going through as my mind went crazy when I had my back piece done a little more than a year ago. I was obsessed with it. It felt like it wasn't part of my body and I wanted it gone.
    It took some time to get used to it and to accept it as part of me. My tattoo wasn't just an impulse decision, yet it felt like something too big, too dark, too weird on my body, I felt like i let down my family and kids and that I'm a freak.
    Well, now, quite some time later I can tell you I got used to it and I like my tattoo very very much and I'm back to being me, the strong, confident me.  Give it time. If you feel weird right now it's ok. You'll be better! Don't be hard on yourself and keep living your normal life :-).
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    Carmelita got a reaction from oboogie in Not liking my new Tattoo, panic attacks   
    hi there. Thanks for the compliment. I'm seriously glad to say that the regret is gone. It took some time and it was a bumpy ride but I really came to love my tattoo and I'm proud of it :-).
    I had to let it become part of me but the support of this group is amazing!
     
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    Carmelita got a reaction from Zenae in Newbie with extreme tattoo regret   
    I had mine done in March. I think it took my about 4 months at least to let it settle. It was a bit weird at first to show it off in summer time when I went swimming. I always tried to hide it before but it would have been unfair to my kids to lock them in on the hot summer days and not go swimming.
    After all,  I got some really nice compliments and it made me feel confident.
    It was a very emotional journey but those feelings that take over will pass. It really seems it's a very common feeling and other people reached out to me telling me about the same experience. 
    I think it's just the mind that needs to adapt to the visible (but very nice) change on your body. 
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    Carmelita got a reaction from SStu in Newbie with extreme tattoo regret   
    Hi there. Maybe you saw my post as well which was in spring this year. I had some serious regret and it totally messed with my mind. All I can say is: give it time, like everyone else here suggested. I got some honest opinions which at first didn't want to accept, because my mind wasn't ready.
    In my eyes it's a nice tattoo. Give it some time! I know it's easier sad than done but I really came to love mine and I do wear it proudly now and I'm sure you will too!
     
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    Carmelita got a reaction from zetroc in Not liking my new Tattoo, panic attacks   
    hi there. Thanks for the compliment. I'm seriously glad to say that the regret is gone. It took some time and it was a bumpy ride but I really came to love my tattoo and I'm proud of it :-).
    I had to let it become part of me but the support of this group is amazing!
     
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    Carmelita got a reaction from scottyg in Newbie with extreme tattoo regret   
    Hi there. Maybe you saw my post as well which was in spring this year. I had some serious regret and it totally messed with my mind. All I can say is: give it time, like everyone else here suggested. I got some honest opinions which at first didn't want to accept, because my mind wasn't ready.
    In my eyes it's a nice tattoo. Give it some time! I know it's easier sad than done but I really came to love mine and I do wear it proudly now and I'm sure you will too!
     
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    Carmelita reacted to Michaelshane in Penis tattoo advice   
    Go for it,Better yet go for a barber pole or candy cane.
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    Carmelita reacted to Gingerninja in Tattoo regret   
    Don't do anything for at least eight months to a year. That way, it should all settle in and look similar. It will mellow...they always do! Do.not.laser. It's expensive, uber painful and most likely won't get you the desired results. Why risk messing it up when in time it will settle in and look even more beautiful?
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    Carmelita reacted to SStu in Tattoo regret   
    I've never felt that I was either hiding nor hiding body lines. I've always enjoyed watching the body's muscles and tendons move under the ink - which is/was far more interesting than without . . . and a sedentary inked body always has more to enjoy. 
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    Carmelita reacted to SStu in Tattoo regret   
    Damn. That's really well done, and a great beginning! Let this one sink in and then add more black/grey work. Congrats!
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