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  1. I wanted to share this sad but informative long-form piece from Jezebel called "The Tattoo Industry Is Having Its Own Wrenching, Revelatory 'Me Too' Moment." Personally, I (a woman) have been tattooed by three different men, and all of them were nothing but professional. I cannot imagine the horror and helplessness I would feel if a tattooer decided to sexually assault me while I was being tattooed! Talk about a vulnerable position! On the other side of the coin, it is disgusting to think that some female tattooers have had to put up with sexually suggestive comments/actions/pictures/etc.
  2. Thanks for sharing your anecdote, @InkedMumma!
  3. Hi ladies! I was hoping to hear from some of you who've shaved your arms for tattoos. I've never shaved my arms, and I'm worried that the hair (which is currently very soft, fine, and light in color) would grow back different -- coarser, darker, or just different? Any horror stories and/or stories of reassurance? Would any of you recommend waxing instead? Thanks!
  4. I forgot I made this embarrassing post! Thank you all for the encouragement and positive vibes :) I like the idea of trying henna first to see what it might look like. The foot/ankle would be the most all-year-round visible spot I'd have a tattoo, so I am having more than my normal amount of anxiety over placement. Alternatively, I'm also considering the back of my upper left arm (above the elbow) for this piece (a fox head and some patterned bits around it). I'm so terrible with decisions -- especially about tattoo placement. I've been looking at pictures of tattooed people on the interne
  5. So, I have a kind of embarrassing question. I have cankles :( I'm a normal weight; I just have thick ankles. (See first attached photo -- like that.) I'm wondering if putting a tattoo on the top of my foot / front of my ankle would help to distract from the fact that I have cankles, or if would highlight them. (See second photo for placement idea.) I tried to search for photos online, but that's a weird-ass Google search, amirite? I have a feeling that getting the back of my ankle tattooed would do more to distract than putting one on the front, but that seems like a weird place for a tatt
  6. Yes! All of these names are so great! Very excited to have a solid list to show him. You guys are a gorgeous, crystal-lined fountain of perfect information. Thank you!
  7. GUYS! These are all amazing and perfect suggestions. I knew I could count on y'all! Thank you so much! (Keep them coming if you think of others!) And dammit now I might have to get my own tattoo from a UKer.
  8. It's tough for me to articulate as well. I will say, though, some of my favorite tattoos I've seen on women are ones that accentuate their female form with placement/flow/lines/etc. I think tattoos can be one of the coolest ways to be more feminine. Roxx at 2Spirit in SF does this really well with linework.
  9. Looking for suggestions for excellent tattooers in the UK -- I know there are many (I've seen many mentions here), but I've never looked into it myself and sadly didn't have the foresight to keep a running list. Black & gray, patterns, and lines. He said he wants something "kinda tribal," but my plan is to present him with a bunch of other awesome work/artists that will hopefully be up his alley but also be a bit more unique than tribal. He's down in Devon/Cornwall but travels often and will happily travel for this. The UK is tiny, after all! (said the American) P.S. Hope this post isn'
  10. Love this thread! Keep the photos coming! Maybe I will be encouraged to venture down my own arm soon :)
  11. Thanks for all the support, guys! I'm planning on slowly drafting a letter over the holidays, to send sometime early next year, probably. I'd be happy to share it here, if that would be useful, in case it might help others struggling to find the words to talk to their own loved ones about tattoos...
  12. Thank you so much for the insightful comments, @hogg! Can't believe your parents don't know about your tattoos -- that's impressive! Same for you, @Graeme, with your in-laws! I'm glad my parents know about mine, because I think I would be even more stressed about it if I was constantly having to remember to hide them completely. (Also, I go to the beach with family every so often, so that'd be near-impossible anyway.) In the end, fully understanding my mom's point of view, and giving her a chance to understand mine, seems like the best way to go about this. I haven't made mu
  13. omfg I wish I had asked to see this in person! So intense! Amazing! Congrats!
  14. Thanks, everyone, for your stories! It's good to hear about other people's journeys and how they have dealt with reactions from family. Intellectually, I know this is true, but it's hard to remember when I'm getting an icy cold shoulder from my mom for days at a time. Looking forward to the day when I can chime in that my parents may not like my tattoos, but at least they don't treat them as such a huge, offensive deal anymore. Thanks again, guys - I feel a bit cheered up! :)
  15. I hear you. However, I don't need my mom to approve or appreciate my tattoos, I need her to still be able to treat me like a person who she loves and cares about, even when she finds out I have gotten another tattoo.
  16. Such an interesting comparison! Sorry you're having trouble with your mom, too. It feels pretty crappy to be judged by your parents like this. I wonder if they know that?
  17. I definitely hear this. So sorry for your losses. This is great perspective.
  18. I have an elephant and a lion (and a lady head) all facing in toward my body. Originally I wanted the elephant facing out because of where I was getting it, but my artist convinced me to go the other way instead. I think the elephant specifically would have been fine either way, but now that I have more animals / things with faces on my body, I can say I'm glad they're all facing the same way. It feels right, ha. It's your decision in the end! Talk to your artist and get their opinion, but don't be bullied if you feel strongly about it.
  19. Thanks, everyone, for the thoughtful replies! My family has never been great about expressing our emotions or talking seriously about how we feel, so I am really liking this letter idea! I think I'm gonna try this route. I agree with you guys that a letter would give me the chance to be clear and comprehensive about my thoughts, and it would give my mom time to digest it and construct her own thoughts, which will hopefully lead to a more nuanced response from her instead of just "it makes me sick." It's too late to do it preemptively -- they already know about 90% of my work -- so I th
  20. @Cork, that is great advice - thank you! I'm pretty sure my mom's feelings are similar to your mom's -- she's ashamed of what people will think of her for raising a tattooed daughter. It's a generational problem, at least partly.
  21. I agree with you, but sadly, I'm not sure my mom feels the same way :/ Thanks, dude! :) I totally agree! I'm not sure my mom is capable of adopting this perspective, but it's only fair to give her a chance. I should tell her that it hurts me when she treats me that way. Though she'll probably just respond with, "Well, it hurts me when you get tattoos." facepalm. - - - Updated - - - Thanks for sharing your experience, @bongsau! It's a nice story, with a mostly happy ending! I hope that in a few years, I'll be able to say my parents have come around, too :) Thanks for the en
  22. Hey all, I'm pretty sure this topic has been discussed to death around here, but I'm hoping this thread can maybe focus on some helpful, active solutions for a problem I just can't seem to get over. I'm sure other people have encountered this, too. (P.S. -- there's a "too long; didn't read" summary at the end!) I'm 29 and have been living a life independent of my parents since I graduated college 7 years ago (read: I'm my own person; I do what I want.), but I can't shake the insecurity I feel because of my family's perceptions of my tattoos, and tattoos in general. My mom ABHORS my tattoos
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