Whether in your hometown or on the road post here if you are looking to try and meet up with fellow tattoo enthusiast for conventions, shows, coffee, etc. Also post if you know of any tattoo conventions.
I think you probably need to make an appointment with a tattooist and get a sketch done. If you haven’t found anything you like so far you obviously have something in mind but you won’t know it till you see it on paper. I would try not to overthink it too, it is important to get what you want but there are limitations. I’m sure a good artist will be able to create something you are happy with. Good luck!
that's not me, I think about a tattoo before I get for about an hour, many of my tattoos were spur of the moment , sometimes on several tattoos I didn't even know what I was getting until I got in the chair. some of mine were flash off the wall.
Welcome. This site is for tattoo enthusiasts. The best thing you can do is look for a competent tattoo artist and discuss your ideas with them. Ask friends who is good, look on line, go to a tattoo convention. Good artists aren’t cheap and are usually booked out for a month or two (or more).
I’d also watch a couple of seasons of ink master - fast forward to the critiques; you’ll learn what to look for in a good tattoo. You’ll also see some great tattoos and some awful tattoos. Learn the difference.
Good luck!