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    Latest tattoo lowdown.....

    in General Tattoo Discussion

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    @daveborjes. I hear ya brother! On the left hand hit down towards the cuticle. I looked at old mate as if to say...what the fuck we doing! Haha.

    Anyway Dave, you inspired me mate, drilling the right palm in a couple of weeks. Like, ya said it didn't hurt...right? Or had I been smokin'?! ��

    Will you be able to ride your bike after getting your palm drilled? Maybe if you have a foot clutch.... ;)

    Can't shake insecurity over loved ones' perceptions of [my] tattoos

    in General Tattoo Discussion

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    This is a wonderful thread filled with great quotes and lots of things I can relate to.

    If I were in your shoes, I would try to truly understand why your mom hates them so much.

    This is great advice. It's easy for us tattoo-lovin' freaks to sit here and think, "Who wouldn't love my tattoo? It's beautiful!" But what helps me is to try to understand someone else's perspective. Personally, I find scarification hideous. (No offense to anyone here who might be into that.) If my daughter, who is now 5, grew up to get good tattoos, I'd be happy. But if she went out and got huge scars, I'd be heartbroken. Does that make me a hypocrite? You're damned right, it does. It's no different from tattoos in that it's a form of personal expression wherein the canvas is one's body. So if I think of it that way, I can relate to your parents.

    Which brings me to another great quote from this thread:

    I have the same problem with my mom and dad. They hate tattoos and think they are trashy. So, I just avoid showing them to them and I avoid talking about tattoos with my family. My mom is never going to come around (she's now 80), and we live in different cities. So, I figured why bother making her upset. She'd cry for months if she saw my coverage.

    Or to my own parents, who--believe it or not--don't know that I'm tattooed. Let's just say that we're not very close. So I hope you can find some solace in the fact that your parents seem very awesome in comparison to mine, who are very judgmental (and old and uber Catholic and lifelong residents of a small town).

    In a thread filled with great quotes and stories, my favorite is from Deb:

    I only recently figured out that waiting for my mom's approval or appreciation of my tattoos is fruitless. I've been waiting for over thirty years & it's not ever going to happen.

    My mother hates my tattoos, she thinks tattoos are ugly and thinks that they look dirty!!! I realize that when she sees any tattoo- it's as if a veil comes down and she doesn't see content. All tattoos are the same to her.

    Well you know what was very freeing??? It was my realization that my expecting my mom to accept my tattoos is as unreasonable as her expectation that I would not like them or want to get them. It's her opinion and she is entitled to it.

    I spent many years vying for my parents' approval. I have it in certain areas--I'm married to a great woman, am raising a good kid, and I am successful in my professional life--but I'll never have it in others. And I'm cool with that. Einstein (allegedly) defined insanity as "doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." It took years, but I finally stopped expecting my parents to accept certain things. And I'm happier as a result.

    Good luck to you.

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